Ällölöllöilyy ja biisei

Viime viikonlopun jälkeen oon ollu niin pää pilvissä ja niin jotenkin tunteellisella tuulella että oksat pois. Joten tästä luonnollisesti seuraa se etten osaa olla hiljaa tännekään suuntaan!

Ensinnäkin, tosissaan, viime viikonloppu oli uskomaton. On se kummaa että kun jonkun ihmisen kanssa tekee mitä tahansa niin se on AINA käsittämättömän hienoa. Lauantaina oli samassa seurassa vielä kaiken lisäksi häät, jotka oli jotain niin ihanaa että en pääse yli. Kyynelehdin siellä hulluna, enkä ollu todellakaan ainoa. Sunnuntaina harmitti kovasti lähteä takasin Kotkaan päin. 

Oon nyt taistellu etten olis ihan yltiöällölöllö ja postailis mitään ihania kuvia ja huutelis maailmalle mitään mitä tekee miel huudella, ja aion jatkaa tätä taistelua, eli keskityn mieluummin nyt tähän kaverien keskuudessa pyörivään hääteemaan mistä jaan teille enemmän!

Eli viime viikonlopun ja tulevan viikonlopun häiden innoittamana ajattelin jakaa teillekin biisejä joita oon keränny itelleni valmiiksi mun mahdollista juhlasuunnitteluyritystä varten. Koko listan löydätte seuraavasta linkistä
For weddings
ja tässä toinen lista josta voi olla hyötyä jos etsiskelee itselleen häihin kappaleita
 Unconditional love

Saa seurata vapaasti! Seuraavaksi kuitenkin omat suosikkini sanoineen päivineen, plus pari mainittavaa hieman erikoisempaa valintaa.

 1. Pearl Jam-Future Days

Tää biisi on tullu mulle todella tärkeeksi tän vuoden puolella ja mun mielestä tää kuvaa kaikkea niin täydellisesti. Tää on alunperin How I Met Your Motherista Robinin ja Barneyn häistä revitty, mutta sanatkin on niin aivan ihanat, että uskon jonkin muunkin pystyvän samaistumaan.

If I ever were to lose you,
I'd surely lose myself
Everything that I have found here,
I've not found by myself,

Try and sometimes you'll succeed,
To make this man of me
All of my stolen missing parts
I've no need for anymore

I believe,
And I believe 'cause I can see,
Our future days,
Days of you and me

Back when I was feeling broken,
I focused on a prayer
You came deep as any ocean
It's something out there here

All the complexities and games
No one wins, but somehow, they still play
All the missing crooked hearts
They may die, but in us they live on

I believe,
And I believe 'cause I can see,
Our future days,
Days of you and me

When hurricanes and cyclones rage,
When wind turned dirt to dust,
When floods they came or tides they raised ever,
Closer became us

All the promises at sundown,
I meant them like the rest,
All the demons used to come around,
I'm grateful now they've left

So persistent in my ways,
Here an angel, lying here to stay
No resistance, no alarms, 

please this is just too good to be gone

I believe,
And I believe 'cause I can see,
Our future days,
Days of you and me,
You and me,
It's you and me

•   Fleetwood Mac-Songbird

Ykkösen jälkeen on mahdotonta laittaa muita järjestykseen. Tän löysin kun katselin Gleetä. Huikee levy, huikee biisi.

For you, there'll be no more crying.
For you, the sun will be shining.
And I feel that when I'm with you,
It's alright, I know it's right.

To you, I'll give the world.
To you, I'll never be cold.
'Cause I feel that when I'm with you,
It's alright, I know it's right.

And the songbirds are singing, like they know the score.
And I love you, I love you, I love you, like never before.

And I wish you all the love in the world.
But most of all, I wish it from myself.

And the songbirds keep singing, like they know the score
And I love you, I love you, I love you
Like never before, like never before, like never before.

• Staind-So Far Away

Tää on ainoastaan mun henkilökohtaisia suosikkeja, ja tää ei välttämättä kaikille aukee. Kuitenkin, nätti kappale josta vois tehdä vähän ei niin rokin version ja se olis ihana. Viidennellä luokalla päätin että jos joskus menen naimisiin niin tää on mun häätanssi. Noh, ehkä nyt on jo toinen suosikki mutta kymmenisen vuotta se kesti.  

This is my life
It's not what it was before
All these feelings I've shared
And these are my dreams
That I've never lived before
Somebody shake me
'Cause I
  I must be sleeping

[chorus]
Now that we're here,
It's so far away
All the struggle we thought was in vain
and all the mistakes,
One life contained
They all finally start to go away
Now that we're here 

It's so far away
And I feel like I can face the day 

I can forgive
And I'm not ashamed 

to be the person that I am today

These are my words
That I've never said before
  I think I'm doing okay
And this is the smile
That I've never shown before  
Somebody shake me 

'cause I
  I must be sleeping

[chorus]

I'm so afraid of waking
Please don't shake me
Afraid of waking
Please don't shake me

[chorus]

• Bruce Springsteen-If I Should Fall Behind 

Tää on niin upee kappale joka on tuttu lapsuudesta asti. Rakastan tätä koska tää on jollain tapaa kovin realistinen. Tässä ei oleteta ihmeitä, tunnustetaan se työ mitä on tehtävä ja pyydetään toista tekemään se yhdessä sun kanssa. Ah. 

We said we'd walk together baby come what may

That come the twilight should we lose our way

If as we're walkin a hand should slip free

I'll wait for you

And should I fall behind

Wait for me

We swore we'd travel darlin' side by side

We'd help each other stay in stride

But each lover's steps fall so differently

But I'll wait for you

And if I should fall behind

Wait for me

Now everyone dreams of a love lasting and true

But you and I know what this world can do

So let's make our steps clear that the other may see

And I'll wait for you

If I should fall behind

Wait for me

Now there's a beautiful river in the valley ahead

There 'neath the oak's bough soon we will be wed

Should we lose each other in the shadow of the evening trees

I'll wait for you

And should I fall behind

Wait for me

Darlin' I'll wait for you

Should I fall behind

Wait for me

• Joel Hallikainen & Timo Koivusalo-Entä Sitten

Tää on ihana suomalainen kappale joka on Pekko-elokuvista tuttu! Tän kun sais jonkun ystävän esittämänä niin ah miten ihanaa. Kaunis kappale, hitaana versiona nimenomaan.

Entä sitten kun linnut on lähteneet
ja verkkaan käy virtojen juoksu

Entä sitten kun päivät on viilenneet
ja poissa on nurmien tuoksu
 

Sinä vieläkö viivyt mun vierelläin
tuuli tuiskuna lunta kun heittää

Yhä kätesi löydänkö kädestäin
paksu jää vaikka muistoja peittää

Entä sitten kun päivä jo hämärtyy
se pois viekö elämän uskon

Entä sitten kun eessämme värjäytyy
ranta taivaan jo väreillä ruskon
 

Sinä vieläkö viivyt mun vierelläin
aallot raueten iltaan kun taipuu

Yhä kätesi löydänkö kädestäin
päivä lopulta mailleen kun vaipuu
 

Entä sitten kun lyhenee askeleet
on haaveiden tilalla muistot

Entä sitten kun silmiin saa kyyneleet
nauru lasten ja leikkipuistot
 

Sinä vielä jos viivyt mun vierelläin
kun on kaikki jo sanottu kerran

Sulle ojentaa tahtoisin elämäin
 

se on sun yhden elämän verran
(2x)

•  Sleeping At Last-Turning Page

 Tää on ikävä kyllä jääny vissiin vähän huonoon maineeseen koska on sattunu olemaan osana Twilight-elokuvaa, mutta tää on silti käsittämättömän kaunis rakkauslaulu ja toivottavasti se elokuva ei jäis leimaamaan tätä ikuisiksi ajoiksi.

I’ve waited a hundred years
But I’d wait a million more for you
Nothing prepared me for
What the privilege of being yours would do

If I had only felt the warmth within your touch
If I had only seen how you smile when you blush
Or how you curl your lip when you concentrate enough
Well I would have known
What I was living for all along
What I’ve been living for

Your love is my turning page
Where only the sweetest words remain
Every kiss is a cursive line
Every touch is a redefining phrase

I surrender who I’ve been for who you are
For nothing makes me stronger than your fragile heart
If I had only felt how it feels to be yours
Well I would have known
What I’ve been living for all along
What I’ve been living for

Though we’re tethered to the story we must tell
When I saw you, well I knew we’d tell it well
With a whisper we will tame the vicious seas
Like a feather bringing kingdoms to their knees

• Drew Holcomb & The Neighbors-What Would I Do Without You

 

Tästä ei oo juuri muuta sanottavaa kuin se, että tän biisin sanat kertoo sen kaiken.

Sometimes I wake up with a sadness
Other days it feels like madness
Oh…what would I do without you?

When colours turn to shades of grey
With the weight of the world at the end of the day
Oh…what would I do without you?

A decade goes by without a warning
And there’s still a kindness in your eyes
Amidst the questions and the worries
A peace of mind, always takes me by surprise.

I feel like I’m walking with eyes as blind
As a man without a lantern in a coal mine
Oh…what would I do without you?

My imagination gets the best of me
And I’m trying to hide lost at sea
Oh…what would I do without you?

The difference between what I've said and done
And you’re still standing by my side
A guilty soul and a worried mind
I will never make it, if I’m on my own

So you’ve got the morning, I’ve got midnight
You are patient, I’m always on time
Oh…what would I do without you?

You’ve got your sunshine, I’ve got rainclouds
You’ve got hope, I’ve got my doubts

Oh…what would I do without you?

(x3)

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Ja tässä vielä pari erikoisempaa, mainitsemisen arvoista linkkiä joista joku saattaa innostua. Ei sitä aina tarvitse olla niin perinteisiä kappaleita. :)

Klangkarussell feat. Will Heard-Sonnentanz (Sun Don't Shine)

Steve Earle-The Galway Girl

The Pogues-Love You 'Till the End

Swing Republic-Crazy In Love

Bruce Springsteen -respect

Toissapäivänä innostuin kattomaan mun kaikkien aikojen lempikeikan Bruce Springsteen & The E-Street Bandilta ja sen jälkeen onkin päivät menny fiilistellessä paljon Brucen kappaleita. Nyt en siis tarkoita niitä tunnetuimpia kuten Born in the U.S.A:ta ja the Riveriä, vaan jotain omasta mielestäni paljon hienompia luomuksia. No, ajatus johti toiseen ja ajattelin sit listailla teille mun 20 mieluisinta Bruce Springsteenin kappaletta! (Joo, tunnustan, siinä luki ensin kymmenen mutta valinnat meni liian vaikeiksi) 

Olkaapa hyvät, toivottavasti jollekulle löytyy jotain! Otsikko on aina linkki kyseiseen kappaleeseen, ja nää ei oo minkäänlaisessa paremmuusjärjestyksessä!

1. Spirit In the Night (Greetings from Asbury Park, N.J., 1973)

Tää on jotain niin hienoa! Aikaisempaa tuotantoa, jotenki todella letkee ja hieno kappale, ja samalla tosi haikee. En osaa sanoin kuvailla, kuunnelkaapa itse!

2. Secret Garden (Greatest Hits, 1995)

Tässä muhun iskee sanat. Tää on ollu leffan Jerry Maguire soundtrackilla myös!

"She'll let you in her house

If you come knockin' late at night

She'll let you in her mouth

If the words you say are right

If you pay the price

She'll let you deep inside

But there's a secret garden she hides

She'll let you in her car

To go drivin' 'round

She'll let you into the parts of herself

That'll bring you down

She'll let you in her heart

If you got a hammer and a vise

But into her secret garden, don't think twice

You've gone a million miles

How far'd you get

To that place where you can't remember

And you can't forget

She'll lead you down a path

There'll be tenderness in the air

She'll let you come just far enough

So you know she's really there

Then she'll look at you and smile

And her eyes will say

She's got a secret garden

Where everything you want

Where everything you need

Will always stay

A million miles away"

3. Fire (Darkness On the Edge of Town, 1978) 

Ah, tää on niin kuuma biisi, mut ei yhtään niin kuuma studioversiona kun tässä linkissä minkä tänne laitoin! 

'Cause when we kiss, ooh, FIRE!

4. Thunder Road (Born To Run, 1975)

Tää on niin kaunis ja koskettava kappale että eipä toi selittelyjä tarvii. Jos maailmassa on joku biisi jonka ikinä opettelen soittamaan pianolla niin se on tää. Kaunista. Ihanaa. Mahtavaa.

5. Dancing in the Dark (Born In the U.S.A., 1984)

Tää saa multa kunniaa koska tää on niin menevä! Tanssittaa ja laulattaa, joka kerta.

6. I'm Going Down (Born In the U.S.A., 1984)

Tässä mua viehättää tää country-henkisyys. Tähän on huikeen kiva tanssia lavatansseja ja on kovin hyvä mieli aina kun kuulee tän!

7. Prove It All Night (Darkness On the Edge of Town, 1978)

Biisin nimi kertoo kaiken. 

8. Badlands (Darkness On the Edge of Town, 1978)

Tää biisi pääsee listalle myös meiningin vuoksi, mutta enimmäkseen siksi että tässä on sanoissa niin käsittämättömän hieno ja osuva kohta, joka on iskeny muhun syvälle jo vuosia sitten.

"Poor man wanna' be rich,
rich man wanna' be king,
and a king ain't satisfied until he rules everything."

9. Sherry Darling (The River, 1980)

Hyväntuulinen biisi joka on huippu myös Robert Downey Jr. esittämänä! 

10. I'm On Fire (Born In the U.S.A., 1984)

Tää on tällanen ilta-ajelubiisi. Tosi jotenki haikee ja Brucen ääni on tähän niin loistava. Jotenkin niin yksinkertasilla asioilla saa niin hyvän kappaleen aikaseksi.

11. Point Blank (The River, 1980)

Ah! Tää on täällä koska oon nähny Bruce Springsteenin livenä kahteen otteeseen. Ekalla kerralla kun olin katsomassa 2008, tää biisi oli mulle vielä täysin tuntematon. Mutta sitten mitä tapahtuikaan.

Huikeen meiningin ja yleisön hulinoinnin keskellä rävähti ensimmäiset soinnut kyseisestä biisistä soimaan, ja KOKO STADION hiljeni. Vannon, montakymmentä tuhatta ihmistä, ympäripäissään tai ei, aivan hiljaa. Kyyneleet silmissä oon harvoin silloin kun ensimmäistä kertaa kuulen jonkun kappaleen, etenkin jos se ensimmäinen kerta sattuu olemaan livenä koska tuolloin lähinnä tuntemattomilla biiseillä on tapana ärsyttää. 

Mutta siis, voi luoja mikä hetki. Oon lukenu konsertista useampia arvosteluja sen jälkeen, ja lähes jokaisessa on mainittu tämä biisi ja tämä hetki konsertin huikeimpana. Uskomatonta.

Mutta onhan se nyt aivan mahtava biisi.

12. My Love Will Not Let You Down (Tracks, 1998)

Tässä piisissä tykkään kanssa eniten tosta ajatuksesta joka sisältyy jo pelkästään biisin nimeen. My Love Will Not Let You Down. 

13. If I Should Fall Behind (Lucky Town, 1992)

Tää on yks niitä kauniita kappaleita jotka mun mielestä ansaitsee paikan häissä. Sisältää ajatuksen siitä, että ei mikään oo välttämättä helppoa, mutta tehdään yhteistyötä ja hoidetaan homma kunnialla kotiin. Ah, love. 

"We said we'd walk together baby come what may

That come the twilight should we lose our way

If as we're walkin a hand should slip free

I'll wait for you

And should I fall behind

Wait for me

We swore we'd travel darlin' side by side

We'd help each other stay in stride

But each lover's steps fall so differently

But I'll wait for you

And if I should fall behind

Wait for me

Now everyone dreams of a love lasting and true

But you and I know what this world can do

So let's make our steps clear that the other may see

And I'll wait for you

If I should fall behind

Wait for me

Now there's a beautiful river in the valley ahead

There 'neath the oak's bough soon we will be wed

Should we lose each other in the shadow of the evening trees

I'll wait for you

And should I fall behind

Wait for me

Darlin' I'll wait for you

Should I fall behind

Wait for me"

14. Out In the Street (The River, 1980)

Hah, no tää nyt vaan on hyväntuulinen kappale ja sattuu olemaan tällä mun kaikkien aikojen lempiäiskeikallakin mukana! 

15. One Step Up (Tunnel Of Love, 1987)

"We're the same sad story, that's a fact.
One step up and two steps back."

Vähän masentavampaakin, tää kuuluis jokaiselle parisuhdesurulistalle. 

16. Glory Days (Born In the U.S.A., 1984)

Niin ihanan huoleton biisi vaikka aihe ei ookaan! Mitä sit vaikka vanhetaan, meille jää muistot ja pirtsakka biisi!

17. No Surrender (Born In the U.S.A., 1984)

"No retreat, baby, no surrender."

18. Two Hearts (The River, 1980)

No tää vaan siks koska two hearts are better than one, ja oli kiva saada vähän jotain tunnetumpiakin biisejä listalle. 

19. Hungry Heart (The River, 1980)

Ja samoilla syillä mennään ku edellisessäkin. Plus rentsi fiilis!

20. Brilliant Disguise (Tunnel Of Love, 1987)

Tän biisin tahtiin on hyvä pohdiskella silloin kun sydänsurut iskee ja on mietittävä että no mikä tätä jätkää/muijaa nyt mättää!



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Joo, olihan noita biisejä mutta huikee on artistikin. Ja jos joku haluaa kuulla Suomessa vähän useammin livenä Bruce Springsteenin musaa, niin kannattaa metsästää sellainen bändi kun The Ghost of Bruce Springsteen & The E-Street Band, Tampereelta ovat kotoisin.

Itse haluisin ainakin kuollakseni niiden keikalle!

Doctor Whota ja häitä odotellessa!

Ah! Tästä on tulossa huikaiseva viikko!

Tiedossa on häät Tampereella, ja oon ultrainnoissani. Oon viimeksi ollu siskopuoleni häissä ikuisuudet sitten, ja nyt oon menossa ensimmäisiin häihin aikuisena! Mekkoa en vaan oo löytäny, ja oon alkanu pikkuhiljaa jo turhautumaan tähän kyseiseen ongelmaan. Laitan ilmeisesti jonkun vanhan enkä sit oo tippaakaan tyytyväinen. Ja pahinta tän mekko-ongelman kanssa on se, että olis kiva jos olis kaksiki eri mekkoa koska ens viikon viikonloppuna oonkin sit toisissa häissä jo!

Molemmista häistä tulee varmasti ihanat, on mahtavaa päästä todistamaan kun omat kaverit tekee elämän mittaisia lupauksia ja kertoo olevansa aidosti onnellisia. Jotenkin niin ihanaa. Oon tähän asti miettinytkin että missä viipyy tää vaihe kun omat kaverit alkaa menemään naimisiin ja saamaan lapsia. Noh, nyt se on täällä!

Mut sit toinen mielenkiintonen asia tapahtuu myös ens lauantaina, nimittäin Doctor Whon Series 8 alotus! Oon jo vaatinu kavereilta että eivät katso sitä ilman minua vaan oottelevat että pääsen Tampereelta takaisin ja voidaan kattoa jakso porukalla.

Oon oottanu tätä ihan liian kauan, ja haluun tietää miten Peter Capaldi suoriutuu tosta hommasta, on nimittäin todella vaikeeta pistää edeltäjiä paremmaksi ainakaan. Ja arvostusta löytyy siis ihan sekä klassikkoTohtoreita että uudemman sarjan näyttelijöitä kohtaan! Jos pitäis oma suosikkinsa nimetä niin se olis täysi mahdottomuus, jokainen on ollu huikeen hyvä! Etenkin noissa uudemmissa serieseissä mistä oon kaikki jaksot nähnyt, vanhemmista oon kuitenkin nähnyt vaan pari jaksoa per Tohtori. Kaikki on ollu täysin erilaisia hahmoja ja jokaista on rakastanu omalla tavallaan aivan mielettömästi, ja en voi jotenkin uskoa että tää sama meininki voi jatkua enää pitkään. Capaldilla siis onkin aikamoinen haaste edessä ja isot saappaat täytettävänä! Hope he nails it.

Ja fiilis

Mulla on huikee määrä giffejä tallessa, ja täältä tulee taas pari osuvaa! People should use these more often.

Persoonallisuustesti, awesome!

Tein erittäin pitkän ja puuduttavan persoonallisuustestin ja sain mielenkiintoisia tuloksia. Tuli huikee fiilis siitä kun pohti miten hyvin tulokset täsmää siihen mitä haluaakin olla, etenkin kun yritti olla 100% rehellinen! :o

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Lisäinfoa löytyy mm. Wikipediasta kun googlettaa oman tyyppinsä! (oma kuvaukseni alla) Ja personalitypage -sivustolta, mistä voit alareunasta löytää uravaihtoehdot tyypillesi, sekä kuvauksen siitä minkälainen olet parisuhteessa. (nämäkin ESFP:lle alla)

Extroverted (E) 54.55% Introverted (I) 45.45%
Sensing (S) 53.85% Intuitive (N) 46.15%
Feeling (F) 53.85% Thinking (T) 46.15%
Perceiving (P) 55.88% Judging (J) 44.12%

Your type is: ESFP

ESFP - "Entertainer". Radiates attractive warmth and optimism. 

Smooth, witty, charming, clever. Fun to be with. Very generous. 8.5% of the total population.

Enneagram Test Results

The Enneagram is a personality system which divides the entire human personality into nine behavioral tendencies, this is your score on each...

Type 1 Perfectionism       ||||||||||||||53%

Type 2 Helpfulness          ||||||||||||||||||||86%

Type 3 Image Awareness ||||||||||||43%

Type 4 Individuality          ||||||||||||||53%

Type 5 Rationality           ||||||||||||46%

Type 6 Cautiousness       ||||16%

Type 7 Adventurousness  ||||||||||||||||||73%

Type 8 Aggressiveness    ||||||||||||||53%

Type 9 Calmness            ||||||||||||43%

type	score	type behavior motivation
2	26	I must be helpful and caring to survive.
7	22	I must be fun and entertained to survive.
1	16	I must be perfect and good to survive.
4	16	I must be unique/different to survive.
8	16	I must be strong and in control to survive.

Your main type is Type 2
Your variant stacking is sxsosp 

Type description

ESFPs live in the moment, experiencing life to the fullest. They enjoy people, as well as material comforts. Rarely allowing conventions to interfere with their lives, they find creative ways to meet human needs. ESFPs are excellent team players, focused on completing the task at hand with maximum fun and minimum discord. Active types, they find pleasure in new experiences.

ESFPs take a hands-on approach in most things. Because they learn more by doing than by studying or reading, they tend to rush into things, learning by interacting with their environment. They usually dislike theory and written explanations. Traditional schools can be difficult for ESFPs, although they tend to do well when the subject of study interests them, or when they see the relevance of a subject and are allowed to interact with people.

Observant, practical, realistic, and specific, ESFPs make decisions according to their own personal standards. They use their Feeling judgment internally to identify and empathize with others. Naturally attentive to the world around them, ESFPs are keen observers of human behavior. They quickly sense what is happening with other people and immediately respond to their individual needs. They are especially good at mobilizing people to deal with crises. Generous, optimistic, and persuasive, they are good at interpersonal interactions. They often play the role of peacemaker due to their warm, sympathetic, and tactful nature.

Living in the here-and-now, they often do not think about long term effects or the consequences of their actions. While very practical, they generally despise routines, instead desiring to 'go with the flow.' They are, in fact, very play minded. Because ESFPs learn better through hands-on experience, classroom learning may be troublesome for many of them, especially those with a very underdeveloped intuitive side.

ESFP Strengths

Enthusiastic and fun-loving, they make everything enjoyable
Clever, witty, direct, and popular, people are drawn towards them
Earthy and sensual
Down to earth and practical, able to take care of daily needs
Artistic and creative, they're likely to have attractive homes
Flexible and diverse, they "go with the flow" extremely well
They can leave bad relationships, although it's not easy
Try to make the most of every moment
Generous and warm-hearted


ESFP Weaknesses

May be frivolous and risky with money
Tend to be materialistic
Extreme dislike of criticism, likely to take things extremely personally
Likely to ignore or escape conflict situations rather than face them
Lifelong commitments may be a struggle for them - they take things one day at a time
Don't pay enough attention to their own needs
Tendency to neglect their health, or even abuse their bodies
Always excited by something new, they may change partners frequently


ESFPs as Lovers

"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May

ESFPs embrace their love relationships in a Big way - similar to the way they approach their lives in general. They love to be in love, and will try to make the most of each moment. They take things on a day-by-day basis, and are uncomfortable thinking too much about the future, or making plans far in advance. For this reason, ESFPs are not natural long-term commitment people. They may feel tremendously committed on a day-by-day basis, but they do not naturally plan for their futures.

This commitment issue is a potential pitfall for the ESFP. Many people of this type overcome this potential weakness, and become involved in truly satisfying, lifelong relationships. Others do not address this weakness, and move from relationship to relationship without forming real commitments, convincing themselves that this is what they truly want.

Sexually, the ESFP is a very earthy and sensual individual who seeks and enjoys intimate contact with their partners. Living in the here-and-now, they throughly embrace and enjoy the experience with all five senses. They are generous and warm, and highly interested in making their partners happy.

ESFPs tend to be materialistic, and somewhat caught up in "what others think" of them. They should take care that this doesn't interfere with their personal relationships, since many of the others types will not be able to relate to their perspectives on these matters.

ESFPs do not handle conflict well at all. They take any sort of criticism very personally, and consider it to be a general indictment of their character. They may react with anger and harsh words which they would later like to take back. ESFPs would do themselves a favor if they would come to realize that criticism can be looked at constructively, rather than destructively. If they can hear criticism without feeling personally threatened, the ESFP will have come a very long way towards greatly improving the strength and health of their relationships.

ESFPs are extremely literal and concrete when communicating. They say things in a very direct, abrupt manner, and can sometimes even unintentionally seem quite harsh. They like things to be communicated to them in a similar, concrete fashion. They dislike theory and abstraction, and will frequently misunderstand the jist of a communication if it is not communicated in a factual, present-tense manner. Discussions regarding the future or the past are not the ESFP's strong suit, and in fact they're likely to miscontrue future-looking statements as something that needs immediate attention. When they discover that the discussion is not regarding an immediate concern, they become disinterested.

ESFPs are in general very warm and giving people, with simple needs and demands from their partners. They just want to be happy, and want to bring happiness to others. They are energetic and popular individuals who will liven up the social life of the couple, and keep many new experiences on the horizon.

Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, ESFP's natural partner is the ISTJ, or the ISFJ. ESFP's dominant Extraverted Sensing function is best matched with a personality that is dominated by Introverted Sensing. How did we arrive at this?


ESFPs as Parents

"You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth...
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable." -- Kahlil Gibran

The ESFP's "go with the flow", fun-loving attitude will extend to the raising of their children. They are warm and affectionate parents, and are great for giving practical care to their children. They like to do things in a Big way, and enjoy big families.

The ESFP will freely give love and affection to their children, but they frequently have a problem with defining a structured, orderly environment for them, and they may rely on their mates in this regard. Ultimately, the ESFP likely believes that too much structure is not a healthy thing for anyone, and so they're unlikely to enforce a highly structured or disciplined environment. If this trait is strongly present in the ESFP, and is not counteracted by their mate's perspective, it could be considered a potential pitfall for the ESFP parent. Children need some structure which can be depended upon as they grow up.

The ESFP is very practical and concrete in their daily needs, and are usually quite good at taking care of their children's daily needs. Although their approach to life is frequently "ad-lib", and their lives are almost always extremely full of exciting events, the ESFP is very good at juggling many things at once, which makes them especially good at handling the various issues which come up in a large family.

ESFPs tend to have difficulty with the authoritarian role, preferring to be their children's friend. However, they do expect to be given respect and to be obeyed when necessary, and will fall into the role of parental authoritarian at times. This can be frustrating for some children, especially those with strong Judging tendencies, as they will not know what to expect from their ESFP parent.

ESFPs are usually remembered fondly by their children for being fun-loving, upbeat, and affectionate, although somewhat scattered.


ESFPs as Friends

ESFPs are highly enthusiastic and effervescent. They are usually very popular, because people are naturally drawn towards them. They get such genuine delight and enjoyment from experiences which they encounter in life, and they love nothing better than to draw a crowd of people along with them for the sheer fun of it. ESFPs try to turn every day into a party, and they're usually successful at doing so.

ESFPs are highly valued for their ability to have a good time, and for their genuine warmth and interest towards people. They are extremely in tune with their five senses, and may be prone to overload them with too much alcohol, food, or drugs. They get along with all sorts of people, although they're not interested in spending time with people who they find boring, or who expect the ESFP to communicate with them on an Intuitive or Thinking level. Some people may disapprove of the ESFP's fun-oriented lifestyle. Others may be put off by their very stright-forward and blunt speaking style. The ESFP is likely to especially enjoy spending time with other Extraverts who have the Feeling preference, although they may have a special place in their hearts for people of any preference.

ESFPs generally have the following traits:

Live in the present moment
Are stimulated and excited by new experiences
Practical and realistic
Warmly interested in people
Know how to have a good time, and how to make things fun for others
Independent and resourceful
Spontaneous - seldom plan ahead
Hate structure and routine
Dislike theory and long written explanations
Feel special bond with children and animals
Strongly developed aesthetic appreciation for things
Great people skills

ESFPs are good at many things, but will not be happy unless they have a lot of contact with people, and a lot of new experiences. They should choose careers which provide them with the opportunity to use their great people skills and practical perspective, which will also provide them with enough new challenges that they will not become bored.

The following list of professions is built on our impressions of careers which would be especially suitable for an ESFP. It is meant to be a starting place, rather than an exhaustive list. There are no guarantees that any or all of the careers listed here would be appropriate for you, or that your best career match is among those listed.

Possible Career Paths for the ESFP:

Artists, Performers and Actors
Sales Representatives
Counselors / Social Work
Child Care
Fashion Designers
Interior Decorators
Consultants
Photographers

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